Girls tend to be closer to their families than men, especially if she is a daddy’s girl. While this strong relationship is wonderful and important, there comes a time where daddy’s girl has to put another man first.

Her Heart

A little girl often grows up saying that her daddy holds her heart…it is something I tell my dad to this day. While it is true that a girl’s daddy always holds her heart, upon saying, “I do”, our hearts must focus on our husbands. They are the one God made us for. We must ensure that while our dad’s are very special and were the first man we loved, our husbands now have the rightful place of priority in our hearts.

Another thing daddy’s girls must be careful of is comparing their husband to their daddy. Your husband isn’t your daddy and you must not compare them. They are two different men with two very different roles/places in your life. You must remember this because it will bring great difficulty into your marriage if you get caught in this comparison trap.

A New Balance

Balance is never easy, it takes time and careful placement of things. Your job as a wife is to find a balance for time with your family. You and your husband have started a new family and in order for you to grow together and have a strong relationship, you need time alone. You need to pull away from your family to allow this to happen.

God designed a husband and wife’s relationship to require a “leave and cleave” process. Without this, a marriage will struggle to thrive because the couple will not have alone time to grow.

Genesis 2:24 says, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”

He Married Into Your Family

It’s true. He did marry into your family. Yet, now it’s up to you to make him feel welcome, to not leave him out and to ensure you don’t get lost in family time and memories while your husband sits by lost and uninvolved.

When you get together encourage times that are relaxed and comfortable for your husband. Whether it be hosting a BBQ, playing games, chatting around the dinner table, taking a hike, watching the ball game, going bowling, etc. Doing things together with your family is important, but it must not be your priority. Your marriage is your priority.

As times goes by balance will become easier as you grow together. If you learn to focus on y’all, then your husband will grow more at ease around your family. It is built into our men that they must be #1, it’s how God designed them. If they’re seeing this prioritization being fulfilled by you, then they will feel more secure around your family.

Your Husband = Your #1 Priority (second to God alone)